Its been a little over a month sense my boyfriend of almost three years and I broke up. Everyone around me has been super great, from my mom letting me move back in, to my friends doing everything they can to keep me busy. As it is I haven't been all that broken up about the break up. I'm improving myself and doing new things, over all I take my moving on as a positive thing.
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| Love is overrated anyway. |
So far I've interacted with my ex. at least once a week, we share a group of friends, frequent the same clubs, basically over three years our lives have pretty much become impossible to separate. Every time we've seen each other it's been nice, a quick hello, perhaps a conversation, we move on with whatever we happen to be doing. I can see us actually doing the whole "being friends" thing in a non cliche way.
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| Wow, your seem like a bit of an ass now that I'm not sleeping with you. |
Though to my friends and family's apparent abject horror the ex. has started dating again a mere month after our break up. And honestly I really couldn't give a crap. I like his new girl friend, she happens to be a lot like me personality wise (I guess my ex has a "type") and sense she is being introduced into the group of friends we've had some time to hang out and I can see us becoming friends as well. However all of my friends outside of the mutual group and horrified and ready to comfort me should I break down and lose it.
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| How dare you ever date anyone ever again! |
The thing is I knew this would happen, and given that almost all my friends have been male I also knew that this is pretty much following typical male post break up timeline. I didn't expect my ex to remain celibate for the rest of his life just because we didn't work out as a couple and I do want him to be happy (no really I do). I guess it just confuses me why people are acting like its the end of the world and I should be devastated.
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| If I do this will you stop freaking out? |
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3 comments:
Hey there! I stumbled on your blog and thought I'd give you my 2 cents.
It's impossible for me not to feel like he's pulling some serious douchebagery here. Even though he's entitled to see and do who he pleases, a month is really fucking soon.
If you're legitimately okay with it, then tell everyone to piss off and take care of you. If not, then maybe just take some space and come to terms with everything on your own.
A little R&R never hurt anyone. Especially with wine. and chocolate. and cheese. (or healthy stuff... I guess...)
I think it's crazy that they're all trying to push you into being all depressed about your break-up. If you're legitimately fine with it, then that is great! Keep doing what you're doing.
I'm glad that you're not wallowing in self pity. Its admirable. You don't have to let a break up ruin your life. I'm not going to lie, I cry after a break up but I don't let it define me and act as if its the end of the world. Rejection is apart of life.
If you're fine with interacting with your ex and his new girlfriend then by all means don't change a thing. You're an adult why act childish? I'm glad that your friends are there for you. But don't let them encourage you to wallow...only wallow if YOU feel you need to.
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