Thursday, March 17, 2011

I knew I forgot something...

So today I went to go sign my lease with the mother dearest . Which went as smoothly as humanly possible in, out, and on our way. But for this entire week when I've told people that I've gotten my own place I've gotten the exact same reaction, complete shock. 

Which I could understand if the issue was solely my age or how much money I make. However the issue seems to be ultimately who may roommate is, he happens to be my boyfriend. The reaction to that bit of knowledge is always... "But your not married!" As if they think that little step just slipped my mind and I'm going to say "oh shit! Be right back, ill get on that and then get right back to you.
So now can we get our own place?

I know that people like my grandparents would have that reaction old Catholic folks that they are. But what really surprised me were the people who were around my parents age saying the same thing. What also was worrying people was my ability to have babies, or rather they were worried that I might just start having them. It's always "I don't want you to be have babies any time soon" 
DO. NOT. WANT.

Thing is I've been in a serious relationship for over two years and you think this hasn't come up yet? Trust me it's been taken care of. Perhaps its just the area where I live, and the type of people who live here. But had anyone else had these types of issues when moving into a place with their significant other? 

12 comments:

ISRAEL CARRASCO said...

It's no big deal but then again I'm in CA where anything goes.

April said...

Yes, yes, yes. My grandma said, "But you're still in school! You won't have time to do laundry and make dinner every night!" Bless her 85-year-old heart.

I gently explained to her that, while living on my own, I'd been keeping up with all those things just fine. In fact, after moving on with my fella, he took over most of the chores (school kept me very, very busy). And, to my grandma's credit, it was only once I told her that that she insisted I marry him : ) (I did)

Hockey Wife said...

Stopping by from FTLOB! LOVE the title of your blog, so catchy and hilarious! How could I not stop by? Off to catch up on your posts! Have a great weekend!

THE SARCASM GODDESS said...

Hi, visiting from the Lady Bloggers Tea Party. Your blog caught my eye cuz Snuggle Slut? Greatest. Blog name. Ever.

Claire Castagnera said...

This post is so funny, and so true. I haven't moved in with my boyfriend yet, but we are definitely planning to, and almost definitely before we even think about getting married. We both had talks with our parents about it to prepare them for the fact that we would eventually be "living in sin" :P But with the crazy price of apartments it really makes no sense to have two separate places, and I'm not ready to get married yet!

SnuggleSlut said...

Claire
- See our parents knew WAY in advance about the moving-in thing (my mom cosigned his gave us half of our dinning stuff) so no speeches or surprises there. Now I figure it would have been better to let the rest of my family in gradually rather than oh by the way moving in with my boyfriend, in two weeks, yes we are sharing a bed, no were not engaged/eloping. ok bye!

-i'm pretty sure they would have taken it better had i not done that.

Classic NYer said...

I moved in with my bf at a relatively young age as well. My parents were so upset that they kicked us out (well, just him but I didn't stay without him) of their Christmas Eve party. I shit you not.

Stopping in from the LBS tea party (from last week)

Miss Allie said...

I live with my boyfriend as well. Oddly enough, both our parents were perfectly fine with it and said it made "financial sense" whatever that means nowadays lol. We get strange looks at times, and people always ask when we're getting married. It's somewhat irritating, but I'm used to it. We've been together 3 years, so people expect it to happen sooner than later. BTW, stopping by from the Lady Bloggers' Tea Party.

Katie of Chicken Noodle Gravy said...

Oh, I can SO relate! I moved in with my boyfriend (now husband) a year before we got married. What made my move "worse" (to the people in my community, friends, family, etc.) was the fact that he had just moved to Georgia from California just to be with me. At the time of his move, I was still living with my parents, so I had to do a quick move-out in order for him to have a place to live. All kinds of people questioned the rationale of my decision...especially since we weren't *gasp* married. And yet, everything turned out perfectly. Makes you wish people would stay the heck out of your business, right?

btw, I'm a random follower from FTLOB :) Have a great Sunday!

Rachel said...

My husband and I moved in together after only dating for 3 months. We never had anyone say anything about it (and we live in SC), but our parents are also very "contemporary" in their thinking. So I don't know! You just won the judgey lottery, I guess, haha :)

Grown Up Rachel

TriGirl said...

Stopping by from FTLOB. My now-husband and I had been dating for FIVE years when we finally moved in together, and we got a fair amount of guff from the generation above us. That was about 10 years ago but I don't really feel like the general consensus has changed all that much...Obviously you are living your life for yourself and not the people reacting to your decision, so let them think what they want and enjoy this next step with your boyfriend!

SarahB said...

I wonder if everyone has these issues…I certainly did! Enjoy life and forget what everyone else says! If you happy then that is all that matters!!

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